19 Things You Must Start Doing In Every Relationship That You Have
Be it a friend, best friend, soul-mate or family, you need some people in your life permanently and to do that, you need to make efforts. Every person in your life has a role to play; it’s upto you who you want as what in your life and that’s where your relationship with them comes into play. It’s all about how you treat every relationship and that’s how every role is assigned to the people known to you.
- Give the exact same treatment to your loved ones as you’d want to receive from them.
How can you expect someone to respect you if you don’t do the same? And why should they? You make your own relationship and the best relationships are when there’s respect there. So, start giving everything that you’d want to receive in return from your loved ones – not only to your loved ones but every human being you are associated with.
- Don’t try and change anyone – learn to love their real selves.
There’s no point of being in any kind of relationship if you change the actual person who got into it at the first place. It’s hard enough to imagine someone changing for you and it’s too mean to even try. If you love the other person with all your heart – be it a friend, sister, boyfriend – nothing else will ever make you stop loving them.
- Be a good listener when it’s really needed.
Talking your heart out is all that you need sometimes and so does everyone else. Getting advice is a pain in those times. Therefore, you must listen to the other person sometimes without giving inputs just to make them feel better and lighter.
- Never try and influence the decisions of someone you love.
It’s true they love you and your decision matters to them but forcing your decision on them is not fair. You have a different life than them, thus, your thinking is totally different. Sometimes, your best decision can spoil your their lives miserably. So don’t take that chance of hurting someone who is so close to your heart.
- You have to leave some important people behind, it’s tough but not impossible.
Yes, sometimes it’s tough to not have those people around you anymore, who were always around in your college or school. But, you have to let them go as soon as you realise they had nothing to do with you or your life, they were only there with you with a purpose in mind. And is it worth spending time (out of a not-too-long a life that we have) on them? No. Just wake up one day, brace yourself and take out everything that you’ve had in your heart against the way they’ve treated you, it’ll all be easy then.
- And give new people a chance to make a difference in your life.
This person may completely change your life for good and you for him/her. Don’t ever think that you’re the only person who has gone through stuff in life, every other person has a bad story to share but they move on and so should you. It’s better to get along with them, share your stories and make new stories. Because when you’ll look back in 10 years, you’ll only remember the good parts of your life and that might include this person who you met randomly in a club who ended up becoming one of the most important people in your life.
- Celebrate with others on their achievements and encourage them.
Don’t be one of those people who can’t be happy for others. It may be tough to be happy for someone when you’re going through failures yourself but know that if you detest someone else’s successes, especially the people you love, a day will come when they will too and you’ll definitely not like that. Learn to accept your loved ones’ happiness as your own because they are really your own.
- Be loyal to people you care about.
True relationships are those that have honesty written all over it. If you are loyal, your relationship will work no matter which part of the world you both are in.
- However crazy/clumsy/funny you may be, you’re best like that. Do not change for anyone or anything in the world and make sure you don’t let anyone change for you either.
There’s a reason why you were made like this. If people close to you can’t accept your real self then they just aren’t worth being close to. Be with people who are more than happy to accept the kind of person YOU are – weird, stupid, loud, funny or embarrassing in public – nothing matters as long as you are with the right group of people, who’ll never trade your real personality with anything else.
- If you can, do away with people who have a negative influence on you.
It is an ego boost when you are around people who are not as smart as you. But have you ever thought of hanging out with people who always have something to teach you? Those are the people you should be with, who are smarter than you. On the other hand, you must not waste time on people who find it very easy to hate life.
- Avoid making hurtful comments and gestures.
“What goes around comes around.” Just remember this and be nice to people because that will take you a long long way in your relationships AND in life.
- Love yourself first for everyone to love you.
Respect yourself before you expect others to respect you. Till the time you don’t think you deserve all the happiness in the world, don’t expect anyone else to even try and keep you happy.
- Holding on to things helps you NEVER, start to forgive and forget.
There’s just so much to look forward to in life, then why live in the past? Yes people make mistakes and sometimes, horrible mistakes that hurt you to no extent but think about this once practically – would you rather keep crying about something terrible that happened to you or you’d rather meet better people and make beautiful memories by LIVING IN THE PRESENT. Be the bigger person and never hold a grudge against anyone. It may be the toughest challenge in your life but it would also be the most beautiful thing you’ll do for yourself.
- Be kind and respectful towards everyone.
Show kindness and respect to everyone you know, no matter how rude they may be. At least you’ll know by the end of it that you did the right thing in the relationship always. And you’ll be able to sleep with a big smile on your face every night.
- Do little acts to make people you love feel special.
People you love the most expect you to show it in action how much they mean to you, sometimes. And whenever you do these acts, they just get reminded of how much you mean to them.
- Avoid silly arguments.
A silly argument can end up in something very ugly and a few years down the line, you’ll realise what a big mistake it was to have THAT argument. You’re not always right and the person in front of you is not always wrong. Remember this and life will be easy.
- Always tell the truth, however difficult it may be for you.
Every relationship is built on trust, as soon as you lose that, everything is lost. Nothing hurts more than you lying to someone who means the world to you. Avoiding temporary arguments can result in things that are permanent and you wouldn’t want that ever. You wouldn’t want to lose someone when you know you can save it, just with some honesty and faith in the relationship.
- Mean what you say ALWAYS.
Do not expect your loved ones to just ‘know’ what they mean to you, you have to tell them in order to make them understand you. And don’t just say things, say things that you truly believe in. Because when you act totally opposite to what you say since it’s “easier said than done”, it hurts you and the person who you made false promises to. So, always say what you mean, it won’t hurt anyone.
- As soon as you realise which friends are real ‘keepers’, do everything to keep them with you for a long long time.
More than your family and boyfriend, it’s true friends who you love, who are difficult to find. It takes you ages to realise that. Those friends who come back to you no matter what and no matter how much time it took, those are ‘keepers’. Those who treat you the same way you treat them, those are keepers and those who never take you for granted (in a bad way), those are keepers. Those who never make excuses but always tell you the truth because they know you’ll understand, those are KEEPERS. And every effort of yours towards them is more than just worth it. So, pay attention towards them because it’s not easy to find such friends in life. In fact, it’s the toughest thing on earth.
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